Forces that make marriages work

There are forces that govern creations, and so there are forces that control the effects of creations. Everything that is working there are those that are working it. Nothing works on by itself and nothing works until it is worked.
People wait for their marriages to work, if only they know they are to make it work, every home would have become heaven on earth. Divorce bills would have been a thing of the past, and files of marital cases in the courts of law would be empty, and humanity would have remained the envy of all creations.
The following Forces, if well understood and harnessed appropriately in our marriages, darkness will have no place to coinhabit light in the homes again.
The force of Agreement. Psalms 133:1-3; Ecclesiastes 4:9, Deuteronomy 32:30
To be of same in mind, same in vision, same in words and actions, and exhibiting the same attitude and character to each other. It is common say that “together we stand and divided we fall”. As long as the couple is one, their marriage remains unconquerable to their enemies. It is quarrel at home that opens the way to marriage for the enemies to attack. Give no place to the devil is what the word of God says to you. Eph. 4:27. Agreement between the husband and his wife generates and releases tremendous power that chases the enemies away from the marriage. When couple prays, they release the power they share through their prayer of agreement. Yes they have power they share in marriage, and this power is for those who are married alone. God gave it to them. Matt. 18:19. It is the power an intruder cannot overcome. The couple must sit and agree on what direction they want the marriage to go, the husband taking the lead, and getting the wife to agree on terms they both arrived at so their marriage can be great as God ordained it.
The force of Knowledge
God word instructs the man to dwell his wife according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife…and that your prayer be not hindered. 1 Peter 3:7. Four things are mentioned in this verse. We shall only discuss two: dwell with them according to knowledge, and that your prayer be not hindered. Dwelling with them according to knowledge implies that the man be informed on how to dwell, live, treat, care for his wife. Expect the man to show respect for the wife to learn how to do just that. How will he do that?, by acquiring knowledge about what a woman is. Read books on woman, Godly women, and woman’s nature, and why they behave the way they behave. Know the temperament of your wife. Study the opposite sex and learn to care for her. They have different emotional structures and make ups. They are created, so differently from the man. It is wisdom for a man to invest little time to know his wife than spending much of his time quarreling with his wife. You must make up your mind as a man to resume learning if you will dwell with her for the rest of your life. Divorce is not a way out in most cases when there issues confronting the marriage or when the marriage is threatened. That is not in God’s agenda for every marriage He witnessed. Christ did not know the end of the marriage He witnessed, even though He was not the one who joined them. Again it says, so that your prayer be not hindered. Yes, your prayer can be hindered if you are in a quarrel with your wife and did not settle before you go to pray. Praying to God in such a time is nothing but a waste of time. You reign by knowledge in marriage. Ignorance of how to deal with ones wife is as strong as the prince of Persia stopping answers to our requests in prayer. Dealing foolishly with your wife is as worse as engaging the prince of Persia against your marriage. Daniel 10:13, 20. A man of knowledge is always in command of peace at home. He is endowed with favour. He fortifies his marriage with strength. So reach out for knowledge. Philippians 1:28, Proverbs 24:5; 26.
The next force is The Word of God
This is God Himself. The word of God is quick and powerful, sharper than any two edge sword… nothing compares to God in power, therefore nothing compares to His Word in our marriage. A marriage that is ruled by God’s word will always triumph in all battles of life any day any time, beating its oppositions hands down. When the husband and his wife determine to make God’s word final authority in their union, there is no other union put against them that can overcome them. That marriage remains rock solid, as it is founded on God’s word. Matt. 7:24-27. You are supposed to study the word of God that relates to your marital areas where there are issues and draw strength from the word to put the army of alien to flight. 2 Timothy 2:15. Everything answer to God’s word, your marriage can’t be an exception. Let everything you do in your marriage ne governed by God’s word from today, and you will live to testify of God’s goodness towards your marriage forever.
To be continued…